Infidelity In Marriage As It Affects Us These Days

Copyright (c) 2012 Paul Ruffilio

Our marriages are constantly being confronted with different problems. Are we recording any progress? What is our take on the state of these problems? Are they on the increase or reducing? It would be difficult to really answer that question without examining the state of many marriages in our society. This is one matter we would be looking at today.

I'm always bothered by this question. Do marriages today have more problems than marriages of the past? I ask this because I'm trying to determine if we can blame the increase in infidelity in marriage to the fact that marriages now have more problems.

My opinion after critical examination of the issue is that there is no increase in the challenges encountered by marriages today. What I think has changed is the way in which the problems are handled.

One of the most basic things you learn about any marriage is that it needs communication to sustain it. The one way to establish proper communication in a relationship is to spend quality time together. We have now come to what I consider the main problem. The amount of time we spend in our homes pale when compared with the time spent at our offices. This should easily shed light why a lot of affairs happen with co-workers.

I was recently talking with a colleague and he pointed out to me one of the dangers marriages now encounter. According to a study, it was shown that folks who have a television set in their bedrooms were more likely to have unresolved matters. Think about it. The couple can watch or pretend to watch a program rather than address an important matter. If the television were not there, the couple may have had no choice but to resolve the issue regardless of how heated things got.

We've simply been presented with a little thing that can have serious consequences on our marriages. We have so many options to turn to. This issue of options has led lot's of folks into affairs, leaving their spouses to learn how to cope with infidelity.

Prior to this time, people had to leave their homes to cool off in a bar or simply walk off the annoyance. The options now are endless, beginning from the social media, to the web and the television. I have lot's of times met people who are in the company of their spouses and are seriously engaged on a social media network conversing with someone else. How crazy is this?

Our biggest lack today is the resolve and discipline to manage our time and set our priorities right. Our Ipads, the internet and our televisions don't sustain our lives or marriages. We ought to switch these off from time to time. These devices were made to make our lives easier and not to destroy our relationships.

Everything we do in life is always subject to choices. This includes our marriages. It's your decision to either create time for your marriage and have a successful one or not to.

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